Question:
Dear Sexpert,
I was recently reading up on an article in my favorite magazine and they talked a lot about role playing to spice up a slowing relationship. How do I start introducing this to my husband, and what exactly is Femdom? – Baffled beyond words
Answer:
Dear Baffled,
Let me commend you first of all for taking the time to write. It takes a lot of courage to send a letter to a complete stranger, asking for help in the bedroom. First of all, role playing can be an amazing spark to any relationship if, both parties involved are mutually agreeing.
The easiest way to bring the topic up to your husband is to sit down and talk openly about it. Be prepared for questions and concerns brought up by your partner, and be prepared to answer any questions he may have regarding these new activities. Whatever you do, do not embarrass your partner by sounding demeaning in your explanations or being too matter of fact about what you want to do, remember this is give and take. (more…)
Femdom Tips
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What’s so funny?
If you have a friend that is tying the knot, or are in the market for a gag gift there are plenty of funny sex toys out there. Generally people purchase funny sex toys for family and friends as a way to make them laugh, embarrass them or create a lightened mood for all parties involved.
Board games are a great way to create a laugh in the bedroom. Whether it’s ‘what kind of lover are you’ board game or a name the object love sack, these unique gifts can be a ton of fun with someone you love.
Bachelor parties are another time gag gifts fit the shoe nicely. A bachelor party is the last night of “freedom” a man or woman has before getting married. Normally the other bridal party members have a party for the honored guest featuring exotic dancers, drinks, and a ton of fun. There can also be a party for both the bride and groom together as well. Buying novelty items such as penis straws, shot glasses, beads and hats allow other patrons at the bar or club to know they are out for a last hurrah before getting married. Men generally will help fill a bachelorettes shot glass in exchange for a beaded necklace, or men will receive a kiss on the cheek for a straw. (more…)
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Penis Sleeve
Question:
Dear Sexpert,
My boyfriend lives almost 500 miles north of me while in school, and although I love him very much I am finding that in his email he has begun to talk to other women. Can you make any suggestions on a toy (penis sleeve) or item that might help him cope with the distance, but keep him faithful to me? –Curious George
Answer:
Dear Curious,
Distance can be the deal breaker in all relationships. It is hard for men especially to remain faithful to our female companions no matter how hard we try purely because we are visual creatures. That being said, there are things like you suggested that can help keep your man busy without having to stray.
Penis sleeves as you mentioned are a great way to occupy your boyfriend. Not only are they awesome substitutes but they are a breeze to clean, and a very hygienic option. In case you haven’t researched what they are, penis sleeves are generally in a tube shape and come in an extremely large variety of options. Whether you’re looking to find him something to look and feel like a real thing without being the real thing, or just looking to find him something new and exciting, there is always something to fit the bill. (more…)
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Pleasure Pearls
Questions and Answers with a Sexpert
Question:
Dear Sexpert,
I have a slightly embarrassing question… My best friend recently got some pleasure pearls, and went on and on about how great they were, and how much she recommends them to everyone. My question is what are they, and how do they work? –Embarrassed friend
Answer:
Dear Embarrassed,
First let me congratulate your friend on her recent purchase! Pleasure pearls are definitely a fun item for any woman looking to have fun all by herself. Now that you feel even more out of the loop, I will answer your question.
Pleasure pearls are two large balls generally made of plastic or metal. Although the plastic ones are cheaper, the metal ones offer a whole new experience and should definitely be investigated. (more…)
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Sex Store
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Question:
Dear Sexpert,
I have wanted to go into a sex store for the longest time, but I have to be honest, it seems morally wrong. I am in a loving relationship with an amazing man, and don’t want him to know that there is a dirty side of me per say. Am I wrong in thinking this way? How can I get over my fear? –Dirty mind
Answer:
Dear Dirty,
First of all, a sex store is definitely not by any means wrong. I am not sure what you have heard about us frequenters of sex stores but we are not all dirty (more…)
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Feel the Vibrations
There are many types of vibrators out there. Ranging from a small bullet meant for internal use, to a clitoral stimulant meant for external use, it can be different knowing which product is meant for you, and how to achieve the results you want. If you’re finding it difficult to choose a toy, read through and begin to understand the different types of vibrators, and what they are meant for before purchasing a toy.
Classic Vibrator
The classic vibrator is generally four to eight inches long, made of hard plastic. Many varieties have a multiple speed setting allowing the user to choose the type of pleasure they are looking for. The hard plastic allows for a stronger vibration, and is normally non porous allowing for easy cleaning.
Realistic Vibrator
Similar to the classic model, these toys are meant for internal use, or external. The major difference amongst the classic and realistic is the material used to create them. A realistic toy is made either of silicone or jelly designed in a shaft form, and has more subtle vibrations in comparison to the classic.
Bullet and Egg
Bullet and egg vibrators are the smallest vibrators on average. They are shaped in a bullet and egg form respectively. They allow for internal and external stimulation, and are generally battery operated.
Specialty
Specialty vibrators vary by the task they were designed for, however generally speaking are specifically made to target one area. Examples of these are as follows;
G Spot
Vibrators are normally shaped in a hook form, and are designed to target the g spot.
Clitoral
Vibrators designed for external use only. These companions are specifically designed to pleasure the clitoris, and provide excitement. They can be used solo, with another toy, or as an enhancement to intercourse. Clitoral toys are also available in hands free format.
Rabbit
Rabbit’s are a wonderful choice. Despite looking a little intimidating at first, these toys are the total package. They have been specifically formatted to look like; you guessed it…a rabbit. They have two parts, one the ears designed to stimulate the clitoris and a body for internal penetration.
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